Friday, February 18, 2011
An Open Letter on Gay Marriage
Over the last several years there have been many stories about gay rights advocacy and in most of them there is a comment section. Just like any other comment section you get a mixture of people who actually want to talk about the story, flamers and spammers. When it comes to gay rights stories though there seem to be a number of arguments from the actual writers and the anti-gay rights supporters. So what I would like to do is list these arguments and talk about them individually and see if I can show how these arguments are facetious and in a way un-American.
1. Allowing gays to marry would destroy the American family.
Of all the arguments you hear, I think this one makes the least sense. I am more than open to listen to someone explain to me how allowing two men or two women to marry each other affects any other couple that is around. I mean does the idea of two people of the same sex being married going to cause a straight couple to fight and end up getting divorced? Like I said, I was seriously like to know what people mean by this.
2. Gays cannot produce children with each other.
3. It goes against the bible and the word of God.
This is probably the most popular argument, seeing as a lot of people in the anti-gay rights camp are bible thumping Christians. My main problem with this argument is that many of these people say that gays should not be married because the bible says so but they are not willing to follow everything the bible says. The bible condones slavery and says that slaves should obey their masters; this is actually stated many times in the New Testament. Then there is an interesting passage in Deuteronomy that states that if a woman is found to not be a virgin on her wedding night that the town men have the right to stone her to death (Deuteronomy 22:20,21). What they didn’t know back then was that a woman’s hymen could be broke without having sex, so you could make the argument that a lot of girls could have been stoned to death even though they had never actually had sex. I think most people would agree that slavery and stoning women for having pre-marital sex is extreme and to not be taken literally. The argument from the bible thumpers though is that the book was written so long ago that you can’t take everything in it literally anymore. While I agree with this statement, what drives me up the wall is that even though they admit this they feel adamant that certain passages must still be taken literally. Granted I am not a “good” Christian anymore but the God I grew up learning about was one that wanted all his children to lead good lives and to be happy while on earth.
4. Marriage is not a right.
This one isn’t brought up as much but it is probably my favorite argument. The very fact that you can choose to get married means you have a right to marriage. A right is something that is guaranteed. If marriage is not a right that would mean we would live in a society where marriage is either not allowed or it’s a situation where all marriages are arranged and therefore you are forced to be married. The idea at the creation of the United States was that all people have certain rights. Even the founders couldn’t get that correct from the start because they still allowed slavery and women were treated as second class citizens and weren’t even allowed to vote. Throughout the years both groups were recognized and given the rights of every other American.
America, throughout its 235 year history, has become a grand experiment in what the humans can potential become. We have come a long way but there is still a long way to go. In order for the promise that is America to be fully realized the people must recognize that we will never be truly great until all citizens are given the same basic rights. The Gay community is simply the newest minority group that is fighting to achieve the American dream and I hope I will see it happen within my lifetime.
Your Deviant Barmaid,